Love and the Perfect Gift!

To get your loved one the perfect gift is not as easy as going shopping, it really requires a great deal of intimacy and communication.

What is the perfect gift for a man?

Is it season tickets to the Lakers, or all three seasons of Glee in DVD Blu ray, or a year membership at your local boxing gym? Yes, it could be any of those, but how do you really know?

If you choose to follow the Madison Avenue train and celebrate Valentine's Day, then you are choosing February 14th as the day that you show your partner - boyfriend, husband, significant other - that you "love" him. If love is an action, then on this day you have the opportunity to show that special someone how grateful you are to have them in your life and how much you appreciate them, with more than just mere words.

If your intention is to truly celebrate who they are and what they represent in your life, then you need to put a little effort into it.  Ask yourself the following questions:



How well do I know __________ (insert name here)?

What makes ____________ the happiest?

What does _________ need most at this time?

Is there one thing ___________ has always wanted to do but has not been able to get it done? 

If you are emotionally intimate with your Valentine and you have a relationship based on clear and open communication, then these question will be a cinch. You will get the perfect gift.

If you can't answer these questions or feel that is too much work, well..............maybe it's time to move on or seek couples therapy.

I know most of us lead hectic lives and are busy thinking about ourselves a lot of the times, but if we don't take just one day out of the year to make it about our loved ones, something is seriously off course in our lives. This requires a bit of reflection on our part.

The perfect gift can be cooking a delicious breakfast and professing your love, in a genuine way, first thing in the morning on February 14th.

It could be doing house chores for one week.

It could be agreeing to go on that skiing trip that you absolutely hate. And doing it gladly.

It could be accepting to be totally agreeable and not argue for a whole week. This includes giving up control of the TV remote .

It could be a free pass for him to do anything he wants for a whole weekend. No questions asked!

And if you don't want to go to such lengths, don't worry cause what do men really want? 

Sex, sex and more sex! So:

How about the willingness to have sex at your partner's request for a whole month? No "Honey I have a headache!" for a whole month.

Whatever it is, just make sure that it is all about - and for - the other person. If you think about it, if your partner knows you - and values you - as much as you do him then chances are he's putting the same effort on your gift.

By the way if this is just too much work and too new-agey for you, no problem, come back tomorrow for my list of gift ideas for him this Valentine's Day! I'm just here to be of service!

Happy Valentine's Day!